Thursday, December 11, 2014

you + me



In the last two months time, Kaleb and I have found ourselves, ever so slowly, drifting in slightly different directions. Him immersed on the farm- there is enough work here to easily keep a man busy every minute of every day for the rest of his life. It's not only the work load though, the unfinished projects or the land running wild before us, it's so much more than that. What he does here at the house with me and the kids is important. So time must be given.

With Kaleb's time being taken up more and more with farm chores I gradually began taking on more and more roles with the house, the kids, the daily tasks. Finding myself capable and strong, I continued on, eventually coming to a point where Kaleb had all but been excluded. It wasn't just the laundry, the cleaning, discipline and chores, but it became story time, crafts, special events, and even their little moments.



This continued on- him on the farm, me in the house. . . both of us locked in a holding pattern we didn't want or need. Neither intending for it to happen, just busy- life get's that way if you're not careful. From the very beginning of our relationship, all we wanted was to be together. It's the reason he left his job and we moved to this farm. We wanted to do life together. Raise these wilds together. Plan together, dream together- be together.



Somehow, life got in our heads, and we lost that focus, forgot for the briefest of times what we love and who we are. We forgot to see how blessed we are to be able to do this, to live this kind of life where our wilds can roam free, where we have an opportunity to spend our days as a family, a life that we can live and build together.

Thankfully, after God gave us a nice smack upside the head, we were able to see what had been happening, look at it from each others eyes and see what we had been missing. For, you see- I always want to walk the same path as Kaleb. We were meant for this kind of life.



Since then, we've found ourselves again. Both making efforts to combine our activities and tasks. To show the other just how much they are needed and valued. These pictures were taken yesterday- the sun had come out and was warming us thru and thru. With winter fast approaching we needed more firewood- so together the six of us headed out to chop and to work. We took breaks to throw rocks in the pond, and build fishing poles out of sticks and grass. We laughed and Kaleb and I held hands and took time to smooch and grope, to be silly and love- and it feels so good!



So, why am I sharing, possibly over-sharing? It's important for me to have this as a reminder. To remember, and learn from and maybe just maybe there's something here for everyone. To take time for our loved ones and friends and to place effort into those relationships, and to be vocal and free with your love. For I believe in love, what is life without it.

21 comments :

  1. This might be my favorite article on your blog. Relationships are hard work, especially if you're living a busy life. It is so easy to live next to each other instead of living with each other. It is easy to switch on the TV in the evening instead of talking. It is easy to let ourselves go and forget about our wishes and goals. It's great that the two of you are able to make it work.
    xo

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  2. Beautiful Pictures <3


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  3. Thanks for sharing. There are many times I blog about things or share things on IG that are mostly reminders for myself, let alone something I think I should be sharing with someone else... but I think it's important to show our vulnerability. It's what makes strong connections :) This is a good reminder for us, as we chose a specific career path as well so we could be together as a family (my husband is a college professor and I'm a photographer). We don't always have a ton of money or other things we might be envious for, but our richness is sweet in that we both have flexible schedules and time for one another. It's a good reminder that no matter what stage in life, we need to be mindful of how our time is spent and where our attention is going!

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  4. It's so good to do a relationship-check like this now and again; husbands and wives can get so busy tackling life as a team, they forget to spend time with each other. Totally get this! Love that you guys have found your way back. :)

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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  5. Love how you're so reflective, so aware of the need for reflection, as a way of guiding you towards you maintaining your 'big picture'....there's a great lesson for me in there, lady, thank you: your over-sharing (as you put it) is always welcome around these parts..... [beautiful, beautiful photos.....you must do all you can to keep your idyllic life!]

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  6. Thank you so much for sharing this! I also find it so easy to get caught up in a busy routine and forget to focus on each other. As my dad says, in one of my favorite phrases: its a case of the urgent overtaking the important. So good to be reminded to regularly check and course-correct a relationship.

    -Zanna

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  7. I think your honesty is beautiful and I'm glad you found the courage to share. Although sharing this intimate moment sounds like it has more to do with holding yourself accountable, but in doing so, you've reminded me this morning that it's who we love and how we love them that matters.

    Texas Jak
    www.novermyhead.com

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  8. This is so true. I find that KC and I are so much closer, and I am so much more generally content and happy when we spend intentional time together, and the more intentional time we spend together. I think that is hard for some people to grasp... but we really do spend as much time as we can together. It is so important. So glad that you got your reminder. It is easy to 'forget' when we become busy. XO -Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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  9. You must right a book! I adore how your word things and the wisdom you share :)

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  10. So lovely! I'm glad you were awakened to see the light. May your days be full of family and love.

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  11. This is perfect. It is so easy to slip into habits that in any other circumstance wouldn't happen! When you take a moment to step back you actually realize what needs to be done. It's finding a free moment that is the hard part! haha

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  12. Beautifully written. It is hard, when you are both home, but there is work to do. It is the same for us, bot of us home all day, but never really together as we both go about our different activities. We stop three times a day to enjoy meals together, and make sure to catch up at night once the little man is tucked in. If we don't do those things we quickly lose our connection.

    Happy you are finding time to enjoy the company of each other throughout your days together.

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  13. I really envy your relationship with your husband. It's rare that you find someone else you're so in synch with, and I'm happy your finding time to spend together when you can :)

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  14. Gosh, I can not get over what a beautiful piece of earth you live on! It is so easy to let life get in the way, without even realizing you have. Thank you for sharing this as a reminder for yourself, but also as a reminder for all of the other couples that need it too. Sometimes we look at all of our responsibilities and forget about our dreams and priorities. It is wonderful that you both took the time to weigh all of that out and make some changes!

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  15. yours is such a beautiful and honest life - very inspiring! no matter how best we try to set a rythem in our lives, it eventually takes on it's own cadence. that's why it's important to stay in tune, to check in so it doesn't get away from you. it's apparent that your relationship with kaleb is built on a solid foundation. i really admire your mutual decision to, as you put it, walk through life together and to make that THE priority for your family. again, SUPER inspiring. xo

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  16. It's so easy to get in a habit of living parallel lives. I'm so glad you guys saw what was happening and took some time to intentionally reconnect as a couple and family. :)

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  17. so happy you two understand one another and worked things out. communication is so important in a relationship. one must listen and give & take. hmmm, what is life without love? i'm single. LOL i would love to be in a relationship, but I don't think my life is worth any less because I don't have someone. hahaha i love myself. i love others. i just don't have a boyfriend or husband.
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    1. Certainly doesn't have to be a significant other- just love! Taking the time to remember and think of others, instead of getting so wrapped up and busy in ourselves:)

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  18. nothing to add, just beautiful. it's gentleness, on many levels.

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  19. This is so beautiful and I found it to be so uplifting. Such a beautifully written post, I'm in awe!

    Carly x

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